Move max payload validation from the parser to ProcessPubAsync so the
server sends -ERR 'Maximum Payload Violation' and closes the connection
(matching Go reference client.go:2442). In pedantic mode, reject PUB
with wildcard subjects via -ERR 'Invalid Publish Subject' (client.go:2869).
Add disposed guard to SubList.Remove to prevent crash during shutdown.
Replace empty catch blocks with meaningful log statements in NatsServer,
NatsClient, and Program. Add WaitForReadyAsync() to NatsServer for
deterministic server startup. Replace Task.Delay/Thread.Sleep in tests
with PING/PONG protocol flush and SubscribeCoreAsync for reliable
subscription synchronization.
