docs(cluster): self-first seed ordering replaces the self-form fallback

docs/Redundancy.md's bootstrap section is rewritten around the mechanism that is
actually in force: which of Akka's two bootstrap processes runs is decided by
whether seed-nodes[0] is this node's own address, so the ORDER of Cluster:SeedNodes
is the fix, not a timer. Adds the per-process table, the shipped self-first
example, why the validator is conditional (site nodes are not seeds) and why it
matches PublicHostname rather than the 0.0.0.0 bind address.

The retirement is documented rather than erased: a new subsection explains that a
watchdog outside the join handshake cannot tell "no seed answered" from "a seed
answered and the join is in flight", and the ea45ace1 live-gate finding is kept
verbatim as the evidence that produced that conclusion (InitJoinAck at 10:49:05,
old incarnation retired 10:49:06, watchdog fired 10:49:15, second cluster). The
watchdog's own earlier PASS is kept too — it did pass what it was gated on.

Also: a live gate for the NEW mechanism is registered as outstanding (not
re-drilled on the docker-dev rig since the swap), and the plan doc that shipped
the watchdog gets a superseded banner rather than an edit, so the execution record
and its Task 8 finding stay readable.

Ripple: CLAUDE.md cluster section, docs/Configuration.md + docs/v2/Cluster.md +
docs/ServiceHosting.md SeedNodes entries, the per-cluster-mesh design doc's two
"CLOSED by SelfFormAfter" notes, and mesh-program Phase 6 (which had this
convergence queued — now marked done early) + Phase 7's live-gate name.

docs/v2/Cluster.md

@@ -64,7 +64,7 @@ The Cluster.Tests project verifies these key values stay correct (`HoconLoaderTe
 - `Hostname`: interface to bind. `0.0.0.0` listens on every interface.
 - `Port`: TCP port for cluster gossip. Default 4053.
 - `PublicHostname`: address advertised in cluster gossip. Must be reachable by every other node.
-- `SeedNodes`: where new nodes go to join. List one (or two) stable nodes. First node bootstraps the cluster from its own address.
+- `SeedNodes`: where new nodes go to join. List one (or two) stable nodes. **Order is load-bearing:** Akka only lets `seed-nodes[0]` form a *new* cluster (`FirstSeedNodeProcess`); every other node retries `InitJoin` forever. A node that is one of its own seeds must therefore list ITSELF first, or it can never cold-start while its peer is down — enforced at boot by `AkkaClusterOptionsValidator`, explained in [Redundancy.md § Bootstrap: self-first seed ordering](../Redundancy.md#bootstrap-self-first-seed-ordering). Nodes seeded only by someone else (driver-only site nodes) are exempt.
 - `Roles`: free-form tags Akka gossip propagates. v2 uses `admin` + `driver`; per-role wiring in `Program.cs` reads `OTOPCUA_ROLES` env var, not this list — these two should stay in sync.
 
 Per-role overlay files (`appsettings.admin.json`, `appsettings.driver.json`, `appsettings.admin-driver.json`) layer on top of base `appsettings.json` based on the parsed `OTOPCUA_ROLES` (alphabetical, joined by `-`). See [ServiceHosting.md § Per-role configuration overlays](../ServiceHosting.md#per-role-configuration-overlays).