docs(cluster): self-first seed ordering replaces the self-form fallback

docs/Redundancy.md's bootstrap section is rewritten around the mechanism that is
actually in force: which of Akka's two bootstrap processes runs is decided by
whether seed-nodes[0] is this node's own address, so the ORDER of Cluster:SeedNodes
is the fix, not a timer. Adds the per-process table, the shipped self-first
example, why the validator is conditional (site nodes are not seeds) and why it
matches PublicHostname rather than the 0.0.0.0 bind address.

The retirement is documented rather than erased: a new subsection explains that a
watchdog outside the join handshake cannot tell "no seed answered" from "a seed
answered and the join is in flight", and the ea45ace1 live-gate finding is kept
verbatim as the evidence that produced that conclusion (InitJoinAck at 10:49:05,
old incarnation retired 10:49:06, watchdog fired 10:49:15, second cluster). The
watchdog's own earlier PASS is kept too — it did pass what it was gated on.

Also: a live gate for the NEW mechanism is registered as outstanding (not
re-drilled on the docker-dev rig since the swap), and the plan doc that shipped
the watchdog gets a superseded banner rather than an edit, so the execution record
and its Task 8 finding stay readable.

Ripple: CLAUDE.md cluster section, docs/Configuration.md + docs/v2/Cluster.md +
docs/ServiceHosting.md SeedNodes entries, the per-cluster-mesh design doc's two
"CLOSED by SelfFormAfter" notes, and mesh-program Phase 6 (which had this
convergence queued — now marked done early) + Phase 7's live-gate name.

CLAUDE.md

@@ -224,7 +224,7 @@ The server supports non-transparent warm/hot redundancy via the `Redundancy` sec
 - **Downing is `auto-down`, not `keep-oldest`.** `Cluster:SplitBrainResolverStrategy` (default `auto-down`) selects the provider via `ServiceCollectionExtensions.BuildDowningHocon`; an unknown value fails host start. A two-node pair running the previous `keep-oldest` + `down-if-alone` **could not survive a crash of the oldest node**: Akka's `KeepOldest.OldestDecision` only lets `down-if-alone` rescue a side holding ≥ 2 members, so the 1-vs-1 survivor downs *itself* and exits. `down-if-alone` is a 3+-node feature. The accepted trade for `auto-down` is dual-active during a genuine network partition. **Its live gate is still open** — the pathology only appears 1-vs-1 and docker-dev is a single six-node mesh, so the crash-the-oldest drill is deferred to the per-cluster mesh work.
 - **The Primary is the oldest Up `driver` member, not the role leader.** `RedundancyStateActor` previously used `ClusterState.RoleLeader("driver")` (lowest *address*), while `ClusterSingletonManager` places singletons on the *oldest*. They agree only on a freshly-formed cluster and diverge after any restart, so the Primary-gated data plane (writes, alarm acks, alerts emit, alarm-history drain) could enable on a node not hosting the singletons. `NodeRedundancyState.IsRoleLeaderForDriver` was renamed **`IsDriverPrimary`**.
 
-**A third bootstrap gap closed 2026-07-22 — downing was never the whole story.** Even under `auto-down`, a node cold-starting while its peer was dead **never came Up**: Akka lets only the **first** listed seed form a *new* cluster, so every other node loops on `InitJoin` forever. `Cluster:SelfFormAfter` (`TimeSpan?`, default 10 s, `null`/`≤0` disables) arms `ClusterBootstrapFallback` from `WithOtOpcUaClusterBootstrap` via an Akka.Hosting `AddStartup` task — it waits that long for membership, then `Cluster.Join(SelfAddress)`. **It fires only when this node's own address is in its own `SeedNodes`**: a node seeded only by someone else (today's docker-dev site nodes, which list only `central-1`) must wait rather than island itself permanently. Pinned by `SelfFormBootstrapTests`, whose two negative cases each carry a positive-control self-join so they cannot pass vacuously. See `docs/Redundancy.md` §"Bootstrap: the self-form fallback".
+**A third bootstrap gap closed 2026-07-22 — downing was never the whole story, and the fix changed twice.** Even under `auto-down`, a node cold-starting while its peer was dead **never came Up**: Akka runs `FirstSeedNodeProcess` — the only bootstrap path that can form a *new* cluster when no peer answers `InitJoin` — exclusively when `seed-nodes[0]` is the node’s own address; every other node runs `JoinSeedNodeProcess` and retries `InitJoin` forever. **`Cluster:SeedNodes` is therefore ORDERED: every node that is one of its own seeds lists ITSELF first, partner second** (docker-dev `central-2` was swapped; site nodes list only `central-1` and are legitimately not seeds). `AkkaClusterOptionsValidator` (`AddValidatedOptions`/`ValidateOnStart` in `AddOtOpcUaCluster`) enforces it at boot — **conditionally** (self must be entry 0 only *if* self is in the list, or every site node would refuse to start), matching on `PublicHostname`+`Port`, never the `0.0.0.0` bind address. The earlier fix — a `Cluster:SelfFormAfter` timer calling `Cluster.Join(SelfAddress)` — is **deleted**: it sat outside Akka’s join handshake, so it could not tell "no seed answered" from "a seed answered and the join is in flight", and it islanded a manually-failed-over node live before a TCP reachability guard patched that one shape. Pinned by `SelfFirstSeedBootstrapTests` (real in-process clusters, incl. a falsifiability control proving peer-first ordering never forms) + `AkkaClusterOptionsValidatorTests`. See `docs/Redundancy.md` §"Bootstrap: self-first seed ordering".
 
 Assert the **effective** cluster config off a running `ActorSystem` (as `SplitBrainResolverActivationTests` does), never the typed options or the akka.conf text — several HOCON fragments compete and the losing one still reads correctly in the file.