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Success now requires BOTH persistence commit AND an InstanceActorInitialized readiness signal from the actor's PreStart — persistence can commit before the actor's async init has run or failed, so persistence alone must not report Success. An actor that dies during init never signals readiness; the Terminated fallback fails that deployment and rolls back the optimistic state. The persisted-row rollback is deferred until the store commits so it cannot race the optimistic write. Deviation from plan Task 15: the plan's swallow-only guard did not handle the persistence-first ordering (empirically the store commits before the Terminated signal, so Success was reported for a dead actor). Added the readiness handshake to make the join deterministic.