DeploymentManagerActor now fire-and-forgets a 'deployment' site operational
event on deploy/enable/disable/delete outcomes (Info on success, Error on
failure), source 'DeploymentManagerActor'. The disable/delete events are emitted
from the existing PipeTo continuations (safe: reads only the immutable
_serviceProvider and fire-and-forgets).
InstanceActor now emits an 'instance_lifecycle' Info event in PreStart (started)
and a new PostStop (stopped) — covering start/stop/enable/disable/redeploy/
failover transitions from the instance's own vantage point. Both actors already
hold _serviceProvider; no ctor change.
Resolution is optional and LogEventAsync is fire-and-forget so a logging failure
never affects the deployment pipeline or instance lifecycle.