fix(siteruntime): extend the row-101 stale-snapshot guard to the instance-config half

ReadStoreSnapshotAsync's snapshot is read off the actor thread and consumed only
when its piped message lands. Row 101 guarded the DEFINITIONS half of that race;
the CONFIG half was left to machinery whose reach is time-limited, and both legs
of the instance reconcile sweep were reachable through it:

- Row-72 leg: a read dispatched before a deploy's persist, landing after the
  deploy completed AND after the pipeline released ownership, carries the
  revision the deploy replaced. TryRestartStaleInstance then "repairs" the
  instance BACKWARD, re-deploying the snapshot's own superseded ConfigJson.
  InstanceIsOwnedByADeployPipeline covers only in-flight deploys, and the
  per-revision claim has never seen the old revision, so nothing stopped it.
- Row-78 leg: a read dispatched before a delete/disable commits still shows an
  enabled row while the actor is already stopped, so StartStoredInstance
  resurrects it — and delete clears _sweepAttemptedRevisions, freeing the claim.

Both verified real by neutralising the freshness check and re-running the new
tests (the fail-before site event literally reads "running revision rev-2 is
stale, applying stored revision rev-1"; the deleted instance came back).

_definitionsWriteGeneration becomes _storeWriteGeneration, covering both tables
(the snapshot is one consistent read and is discarded whole, so one counter is
the right shape); DefinitionsGenerationAtRead -> StoreGenerationAtRead on both
internal records. The generation is now bumped at BOTH ends of every mutation —
when the off-thread write is dispatched and when its completion message lands —
because the config paths advance actor state before the write, so an
initiation-only bump would let an in-window read look fresh. Disable, delete and
the init-failure rollback have no actor-thread completion message of their own,
so a minimal StoreWriteCompleted self-message carries the bump for them.

CDC-replicated writes, snapshot resyncs, restored files and
SiteReconciliationActor's fetch deliberately do NOT bump: discovering exactly
those is the sweep's reason to exist.

A stale sweep result is now dropped WHOLE (no overlay apply, no start, no
restart). A stale boot load cannot be dropped — startup must finish — so it
re-dispatches LoadDeployedConfigs(); a fifth consecutive superseded read is
applied anyway with a Warning, and a late one arriving after the boot completed
is dropped rather than looping against the S5 retry timer.

Tests: three fail-before regressions (backward restart, resurrection, boot
re-read) plus two guard twins pinning that the legitimate row-72 restart and
row-78 start still fire on a current-generation snapshot. The row-101
definitions tests keep passing; FreshEmptySweepSnapshot's hardcoded generation
moves 1 -> 2 now that one artifact apply bumps at both ends.

Docs: Component-SiteRuntime.md's stale-snapshot paragraph now describes the
whole snapshot (both halves, both consumers, the boot re-dispatch, the
CDC-no-bump rule), the components mirror follows, and the arbitration memo gains
§11 extending §10 to the config half.

docs/components/SiteRuntime.md

@@ -91,7 +91,7 @@ Central sends a `DeployInstanceCommand` carrying a JSON `FlattenedConfiguration`
 
 > **`CreateInstanceActor` is the single funnel for the connection push too (register row 85)**: the `EnsureDclConnections` call moved *into* `CreateInstanceActor` on 2026-08-17. It used to sit at each caller, and only two of the four callers made it — the boot-time batch and this deploy path. `StartStoredInstance` (row-67 ensure-started and the row-78 sweep) and `HandleEnableResult` did not, so a self-healed or newly-enabled instance came up with no connection actors and every tag subscribe was answered `Unknown connection: <name>` indefinitely. See the *Instance reconcile sweep* section and `docs/plans/2026-08-15-instance-sweep-self-heal-design.md` §7.
 
-> **Which config source wins (register rows 89 + 90, 2026-08-17)**: `EnsureDclConnections` no longer trusts the flattened snapshot blindly. `data_connection_definitions` is read on the same off-thread task as the deployed configs, at boot and on every sweep tick, into an actor-thread-confined **arbitration overlay**: a connection name with a row there is configured from that row, and only a name with no row uses the instance's flattened `Connections` entry (which is the correct source on a deploy-only site, where that table is legitimately empty). The winner is resolved **before** the per-name hash is computed, which is what makes the two-source ping-pong — the reason a store-level sweep was rejected in §7.4 — unrepresentable rather than merely avoided. Removals additionally leave an in-memory tombstone so a centrally deleted connection is not resurrected by the next instance start. A monotonic write-generation guard (row 101) discards a snapshot whose off-thread read raced an artifact apply — its stale absences would otherwise tombstone and stop just-applied live connections that nothing re-creates until an instance redeploy. **The register's premise was wrong in two ways** (the standby's DCL is empty rather than stale, so the real defect is create-time on the next singleton incarnation and is not replication-specific; and a re-issued create never reconfigured a *live* connection actor at all). See `docs/plans/2026-08-17-dcl-connection-arbitration-decision.md`.
+> **Which config source wins (register rows 89 + 90, 2026-08-17)**: `EnsureDclConnections` no longer trusts the flattened snapshot blindly. `data_connection_definitions` is read on the same off-thread task as the deployed configs, at boot and on every sweep tick, into an actor-thread-confined **arbitration overlay**: a connection name with a row there is configured from that row, and only a name with no row uses the instance's flattened `Connections` entry (which is the correct source on a deploy-only site, where that table is legitimately empty). The winner is resolved **before** the per-name hash is computed, which is what makes the two-source ping-pong — the reason a store-level sweep was rejected in §7.4 — unrepresentable rather than merely avoided. Removals additionally leave an in-memory tombstone so a centrally deleted connection is not resurrected by the next instance start. A monotonic store-write-generation guard (row 101) discards — **whole** — any snapshot whose off-thread read raced one of this node's own mutations of *either* table, bumping the generation both when a write is dispatched and when its completion message lands so no in-flight read can look fresh. It covers both halves: a stale definitions half would tombstone and stop just-applied live connections that nothing re-creates until an instance redeploy, and a stale configs half would restart an instance **backward** onto the revision a deploy just replaced or resurrect one a disable/delete just stopped (the deploy-pipeline-ownership check does not reach either, since it only holds while a deploy is in flight). Writes that never pass through the actor — CDC replication, snapshot resync, a restored file, the startup reconcile fetch — deliberately do **not** bump, because discovering those is the sweep's whole purpose. A stale sweep result is dropped; a stale boot load is **re-read** instead, since startup must complete. **The register's premise was wrong in two ways** (the standby's DCL is empty rather than stale, so the real defect is create-time on the next singleton incarnation and is not replication-specific; and a re-issued create never reconfigured a *live* connection actor at all). See `docs/plans/2026-08-17-dcl-connection-arbitration-decision.md`.
 
 > **A changed config reaches the LIVE connection (register row 97)**: resolving the winner decides *what* to push; a third command was needed to make a push against an already-live connection mean anything, because `DataConnectionManagerActor.HandleCreateConnection` warns and returns for a name it already holds. `EnsureDclConnection` now has three outcomes off the one per-name hash slot — **unchanged → nothing**, **new → `CreateConnectionCommand`**, **changed → `ReconfigureConnectionCommand`** — and the connection actor applies the last of these in place by swapping its adapter through the failover machinery and re-issuing its subscriptions. Log line: `Reconfigured DCL connection {Connection} (protocol={Protocol}) in place` (Information), replacing the "will not take effect" Warning rows 89/90 added. See `DataConnectionLayer.md` → *Reconfiguring a live connection*.