feat(dcl+siteruntime): reconfigure a LIVE data connection in place — register row 97

`DataConnectionManagerActor.HandleCreateConnection` is create-only (warns and
returns for a name it already holds), so `EnsureDclConnection`'s documented
"a changed config re-issues the create so the DCL adopts it" was never true on
ANY node: a corrected endpoint/credential/backup/failover-count took effect only
when the connection was next built from scratch (node restart, singleton
failover, remove-then-re-add), while the DM's hash cache recorded it as applied.
Rows 89/90 made that honest with a Warning; this closes it.

New `ReconfigureConnectionCommand` (Commons, same shape as the create):

- `DeploymentManagerActor.EnsureDclConnection` now has three outcomes off its one
  per-name hash slot — unchanged -> nothing at all, new -> create, CHANGED ->
  reconfigure — and logs "Reconfigured DCL connection {Connection}
  (protocol={Protocol}) in place" at Information in place of the old Warning. The
  winner-resolution / arbitration / tombstone logic is untouched; only what
  happens after a change is detected changed.
- `DataConnectionManagerActor` FORWARDS the command to the owning connection
  actor, falling back to a create for a name it does not hold, so the command is
  safe whatever the manager's state.
- `DataConnectionActor` handles it in ALL THREE states and never stashes it — a
  connection pointed at a wrong or dead endpoint lives in Connecting/Reconnecting,
  which is exactly when a correction arrives; stashed it would wait on the broken
  configuration forever. Handling replaces protocol/primary/backup/failover-count,
  re-arms endpoint selection to Primary (the new config's primary is the intent,
  whatever the old config had failed over to), and calls the new shared
  `SwapAdapter` helper — now used by both failover sites too, so the swap exists
  once: unhook + fire-and-forget dispose -> _factory.Create -> rewire -> bump
  _adapterGeneration LAST. `BecomeReconnecting(afterReconfigure: true)` then
  reconnects immediately (StartSingleTimer replaces any armed reconnect, so no
  racing attempts) with the unstable-disconnect accounting and failover check
  suppressed — the link was dropped on purpose, and counting it as an unstable
  cycle could trip a failover onto the NEW backup before the new primary had been
  tried once. ReSubscribeAll/ReSubscribeAllAlarms then re-issue everything from
  the untouched subscription registries. Idempotent: a reconfigure carrying the
  configuration already in force is a no-op.

Stop-and-recreate was rejected as destructive: subscriptions live inside
DataConnectionActor and InstanceActor cancels its subscribe-retry timer on first
success, so a rebuilt actor would have no subscribers and nothing would ever
re-subscribe.

Tests: new DataConnectionReconfigureTests (7; 5 fail / 2 pass against a
behavioural revert). DclConnectionArbitrationTests gains two row-97 tests and its
CDC-arrival test now asserts the second push is a reconfigure; its ping-pong
guard also asserts zero reconfigures, since a flip would now show up there.
SiteRuntime-010 renamed to ..._ReissuesReconfigureCommand. 3 fail against a
reverted EnsureDclConnection. DataConnectionLayer.Tests 327/327,
SiteRuntime.Tests 643/643, solution build 0 warnings.

Docs: Component-DataConnectionLayer.md gains an "In-place reconfiguration"
section under Endpoint Redundancy; Component-SiteRuntime.md, and the
docs/components/ mirrors, updated; the arbitration decision memo gains an
appended §9 postscript resolving its residual 1 (residuals 2 and 3 stay open).

docs/components/SiteRuntime.md

@@ -93,6 +93,8 @@ Central sends a `DeployInstanceCommand` carrying a JSON `FlattenedConfiguration`
 
 > **Which config source wins (register rows 89 + 90, 2026-08-17)**: `EnsureDclConnections` no longer trusts the flattened snapshot blindly. `data_connection_definitions` is read on the same off-thread task as the deployed configs, at boot and on every sweep tick, into an actor-thread-confined **arbitration overlay**: a connection name with a row there is configured from that row, and only a name with no row uses the instance's flattened `Connections` entry (which is the correct source on a deploy-only site, where that table is legitimately empty). The winner is resolved **before** the per-name hash is computed, which is what makes the two-source ping-pong — the reason a store-level sweep was rejected in §7.4 — unrepresentable rather than merely avoided. Removals additionally leave an in-memory tombstone so a centrally deleted connection is not resurrected by the next instance start. **The register's premise was wrong in two ways** (the standby's DCL is empty rather than stale, so the real defect is create-time on the next singleton incarnation and is not replication-specific; and a re-issued create never reconfigured a *live* connection actor at all). See `docs/plans/2026-08-17-dcl-connection-arbitration-decision.md`.
 
+> **A changed config reaches the LIVE connection (register row 97)**: resolving the winner decides *what* to push; a third command was needed to make a push against an already-live connection mean anything, because `DataConnectionManagerActor.HandleCreateConnection` warns and returns for a name it already holds. `EnsureDclConnection` now has three outcomes off the one per-name hash slot — **unchanged → nothing**, **new → `CreateConnectionCommand`**, **changed → `ReconfigureConnectionCommand`** — and the connection actor applies the last of these in place by swapping its adapter through the failover machinery and re-issuing its subscriptions. Log line: `Reconfigured DCL connection {Connection} (protocol={Protocol}) in place` (Information), replacing the "will not take effect" Warning rows 89/90 added. See `DataConnectionLayer.md` → *Reconfiguring a live connection*.
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 For redeployment (instance already running), the existing actor is stopped and watched:
 
 ```csharp